Showing posts with label sleep deprivation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sleep deprivation. Show all posts

Thursday, July 2, 2015

Do You Enjoy Your Time Off?

When I have time off, I don't know what to do with myself.  I could do a number of things:

1.  I could catch up on endless chores
2.  I could do go somewhere to shop, browse, eat out, socialize
3.  I could be a slug and lay on the bed watching a Cold Case marathon
4.  I could waste time on the internet reading the news, facebook, etc.
5.  I could spend time on a hobby like writing my book, taking an ecourse
6. I could do something that involves fitness

Or I could do a little bit of all of the above.

I could revolt against myself and find something horrible about each activity:

#1- I could be so involved in chores that I am miserable and resentful, looking forward to my next day back at the office.

#2- I could berate myself for spending too much money.

#3- I could become angry that I accomplished nothing.

#4- More of #3.

#5- I could become engrossed in a hobby and then feel I was ignoring my husband and child.

#6- Work out?  What? ... and accidentally become an exercise addict?
LOL.

What do I usually do on my time off?
I stay up past a normal bedtime then I am tired  and grumpy the next day looking for a nap!

I do enjoy a weekend away from the house when we go on a short road trip visiting family.

Are you too obsessed with your time off?
Do you have a live-like-vacation attitude on your time off?




Saturday, April 4, 2015

Fight or Flight and Fizzle

How often do you feel the fight or flight reaction?  

Fight or flight describes the the response of an animal that perceives danger.  An animal has one of two choices to make to preserve its life.  It can fight or it can flee.  

Human living today doesn't have the same dangers as animals in the wild, although there are times when we are truly in peril such as a car accident, a weather disaster, medical emergency, etc.  

The body has its own defenses in place to give your  body more oxygen, more strength, and speed when the flight or fight response kicks in.  

The stressors of modern day life still incite the fight or flight response, but it does so too often and the reaction lasts too long.  This response should only be a few minutes and then the body soon relaxes.  

Too much flight or flight will impair the immune system and burn out the endocrine system, not to mention rewire the nervous system to overreact in a very hyperresponsive manner.  Sounds so fatiguing.  

So, a mechanism that is designed for survival becomes so overused, it eventully fizzles and  no longer provides protection.  

Remember the boy who cried wolf so often that no one came to his aid when he was in trouble.  They were so fed up with his false alarms that they ignored him.

We don't want our body's survival system ignoring us and ignoring our needs.  That's why we need to  take control of out plate and get rid of the unproductive.  

One tip I can share here is to look back at the second paragraph about an animal perceiving a danger.  We are not animals.  We have much more to keep track of in our lives besides food, safety, and reproduction.  So, the kicker here is how we perceive things that tend to upset us into a faulty flight or fight reaction.  

We can perceive things differently, that's a given.  

Also, in an extended fight or flight reaction, we tend to do things that hinder our health even more such as overeating, drinking, and getting poor sleep.  And, the cycle continues as the body gets more fatigued.  

Richard O'Connor, PhD, has written a number of very good books on the topic of perpetual stress. 

James L. Wilson, DC, also writes about adrenal fatigue.  

Check out these useful references.  


Friday, March 20, 2015

The Problem of the Plate

Do you do so many things in one day that you are not feeling accomplished?  Do you just get by with a feeling of exhaustion as you run from one task to the next?

Are you cramming so much into your day that you make mistakes that are regretful?

Do you put out many fires in a life of chaos?

This is the theory of the plate.  You can keep pushing more things on to the plate until something on the other side slides off.  Just like the song On Top of Old Smokey, That meatball falls right on to the floor.

The saying is "I've got too much on my plate."  And we sure do not want things to fall off, like our precious relationships.

We can push things aside.  We can push aside things that take up too much time.  We don't want to push aside our family.

It's easy to say no to some things. I don't have time to attend every event I am invited to.  Many things just can't be done while I have a young child.  It's hard to say no to some people who really twist your arm about volunteering for something that you don't have time for, but it has to be done.

Some people may ask too much of you.  They want to be on your plate.
Be very careful.  You can't put it all on your plate.

Some people want to take control of your plate!   Ugh!

You can't live like vacation when your plate is ridiculously full.

If there are activities that make you feel grumpy, take a serious inventory and drop the ones that need to go.  If you argue with yourself about it, that's a sign that your life is too out of control.  If others will be disappointed....are you sure?  Or are you making that up in your mind?

It's a lot to think about but well worth it to decutter your life and slow down.

WHO LIVES FOR THE WEEKEND?

I do.  It's a big deal to me.  As a small business owner, I only close when there is a national holiday and of course the weekends.

Then I try to cram in chores and errands.  (Not always, and not happily)
Then there is a school activity or local event.  The day is done.  Then Sunday comes around and that day goes by sooooo fast.   Then the weekend's over.  Who's tired and resentful?

Who doesn't get Authentically Restful Sleep on the weekend because they break their Authentically Restful Sleep Routine.  ???????






Saturday, March 7, 2015

Where the Rubber Meets the Road

What really made the vacation?

Our days on vacation were entirely uncluttered.

The bills were paid in advance.  The phone did not ring, since I told my practice members that the office was closed. There were no lunches to pack.  Even though we did laundry during our vacation, we didn't have to get it done by a certain time so all work clothes and school uniforms were ready.  We made a couple of trips to a grocery store that were low stress trips since we were leisurely planning meals.  All recreational plans were low keyed.  There were no major trips to museums, and no visits to tourist attractions.  There was no dealing with long drives in traffic. We had a few visits with relatives in the evenings, but we mostly kept to ourselves.

There were no distractions.  There was no over-booking of activities.  There were no surprises that typically come up during work days.

So how can this experience carry over into the return to daily life?

1.  First of all there has to be a commitment.  The stark change from one day to the next was an eye opener for me.  As soon as I landed back in Syracuse, the nonsense began.  I said, "Enough! I want that vacation-feel back!"  Like I said in an earlier post.  I had no desire to leave town.  I was happy being a working dog. (I have nothing against working dogs.)  It was a comfort zone.  Upon my return I realized things could be different because I lived it differently for a week!

Some people never believe they can have something different.  I hear it everyday in my office.  Practice members do not believe they can get one inch closer to better health. There is a big mental barrier that I empathize with.  It is a tough egg to crack.  I was like that.

When I finally knew what I didn't know, and gave up my "know it all" attitude so I could just enjoy myself for a week in sunny Florida, it was easy to make the commitment.  Here is the blog to prove it.

2.  You must sleep at the same hours every night.   If you think your body is happy with an 11 o'clock bed time, or 10 o'clock bedtime, think again.   There is too much of a domino effect when you don't go to bed earlier and keep it consistent (weekends included).  Your energy, mental organization, temperament, productivity,  food cravings, are all going in the wrong direction.  Time is wasted.  Productivity is a joke.  I blamed it on hormones....LOL.   Even hormones need sleep.  Don't lie to yourself about sleep.

3.  You must systematize your daily activities so they are done and out of the way and then you will have more room for the enjoyment!  Get the little things done and out of the way.  Really, they are not little things, because they play a supporting role to get you out there in the world ready to take action.  How do you begin?  Well, you go to bed at a decent hour and then discover what you can accomplish the next day.

A few weeks ago I wrote a health article about energy.  I made a point about my personal life that I was giving away the best of me all day during office hours and there was nothing left of me at home for my family.  I know if I feel this way, everyone else has this problem.  I was doing a lot of things well such as taking my supplements, getting adjusted weekly, exercising a little bit..... Well, in all honesty, there were holes in my bucket.  Vacation helped me see that.  I was putting my all into the office, even that can eventually run on fumes.  I have many ideas for new projects, marketing, etc., but they have been on the back burner for months.  The back burner is turning into a cobweb filled attack.

If you are a list writer, take all your "supporting role" chores make that list.  Come up with ways to reduce the time you spend on them.  Get them done in a more efficient manner.  And when you get on the authentic restful sleep routine, you'll have an extra time and energy.

4.  Totally knock out the things that are unproductive.   Back to commitment again.  Here's a few ideas.  They have some pesky emotional  attachments. Skip the little detour to Dunkin Donuts, find ways to avoid the post office, ignore phone  calls during your most productive time of day, set strong boundaries with certain people in your life, (Yep, do it.), give up television.  Here's a biggie: use social media for catching up with family, sharing photos, following a few interests.  I said few.  Give up the rest.   Don't read every comment, don't read every news story shared.  Skip 80% of it.

Now, don't take my word for it.  These are well known strategies to get your life in balance. When you feel the benefits of your Live Like Vacation changeover you will easily kick these time suckers to the curb!

I started out this blog taking things slowly, step by step.  Don't overwhelm yourself.

5.  Make your work joyful for yourself and others.
     Does this make you nervous?   Concentrate on #1-3, jump into #4 later and then you'll be ready for #5.

I'll be there with you doing the same thing myself.

Wednesday, March 4, 2015

I Am Not Obsessed with Sleep

I am not obsessed with sleep, but  these five posts have emphasized it.  And I've been getting some fun results with a good night's sleep that starts by going to bed at 9 PM every night.

We know America is sleep deprived.  All you have to do is google the statistics and health problems created by sleep deprivation.

I really fooled myself into thinking my variable bedtimes were fine even though I was in bed some nights at 9:30, or 10:00 or usually 10:45.  Since I woke up without an alarm clock, I convinced myself I was getting enough sleep.

This was an easy experiment and I feel a difference.

This nice surprise started during my vacation and I had no nagging issues to drag out my bedtime or keep me awake at night.  I will continue with my own self study and share my findings because now I have to deal with the competition between my desire for an authentically restful sleeping routine and the stressful activities that will be crammed into my life.

I will add that good sleep makes my evening chores get done quickly without some type of griping attitude muttered under my breath.  I am not tired even though I am turning in thirty minutes from now.

But I am not obsessed with sleep.  I am naturally stumbling into the other
issues that interfere with my ability to Live Like Vacation so they will be addressed next.

Diet will be another topic and I've given some sneak previews on that.
Here are more:
-Reducing time on errands through better planning
-The difference between being in control and being organized
-Financial planning
-Overbooking your day
-Responding to mishaps
-The causes and inefficiency of worrying
-The good bad and ugly about social media
-Truly being open to the saying: I had no idea what I was missing
-And more ...

Right now my son immediately responded when I said, "Bath time."
He also likes our new early bed time routine.  It used to be a chore getting him to bed.  Boy, it sounds like our night routine was chaos.  And it was.  When you come home from work exhausted your brain functions differently.  How normal is it to come home from work exhausted?
Let's delve into that next time.

Keep the Vacation-Feel !!